You can vary how much your paraphrase resembles what your friend said. For example, you might respond "You feeling like he is taking your time and that isn't fair." That's a paraphrase of stealing.

If your paraphrase is different from what your friend said, it might be right and it might be wrong. Either way, it is food for focusing. But you should try to be accurate in your paraphrase. Too many wrong paraphrases are annoying.